A man and woman face each other across a table at a downtown bistro, looking nervous and awkward. There is a stiff formality to the way they sit—no slouching. It remains to be seen if it will pick up speed, gain altitude, and soar skyward . Sometimes they lead to burning love; sometimes they go down in flames. All the observable and obvious clues: They are nicely groomed—stylish, but not overdone. As would-be romances go, this plane is very slow to leave the gate and get onto the runway. or if it will lose engine power and sit on the tarmac indefinitely. It’s true that first dates can be one of the most nerve-wracking, anxiety-producing situations in our society. After I had asked you out for the first time, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? When you have sexual fantasies, who do you usually think of? Can you name three qualities that attracted you when you met me/got to know me? Which is your favourite movie of all time and favourite scene in it? Till now, what is the moment that you regret the most? Or would you keep it to yourself and observe from afar? If you had a lot of money, where would we go on vacation? How do you feel if I walk into the bathroom when you are in the middle of using the facilities? Is it okay for one partner in a couple to take a vacation alone? Which three parts of my body are your personal favourites and why? If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her? What place would you like to visit that you haven't been to yet? Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person and why?
That way you get them talking and before you know it, you'll not only be having a decent conversation with them, but getting to know them as well.
The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly.
But the ability to speak is only one part of the equation—and not the most important part.
When it comes to dating a girl, she’d instinctively know you’re hitting on her.
If you discreetly warm her up to your flirty touches, you’ll see that seducing a girl can be rather easy if she thinks you’re a great guy.